“Believe in yourself, take on your challenges, dig deep within yourself to conquer fears. Never let anyone bring you down. You got to keep going.” -Chantal Sutherland
I want to ask you a question. Think about all the obstacles that you have in life, you know the things that hold you back from becoming who you want to be and what you want to achieve. Now think about which one of those is the most detrimental to your success. What is it? We’ll get back to that later. Right now, I want to talk about the biggest obstacle holding most people back. The one thing that causes us to doubt ourselves, to not try anything new, to play it safe. It comes in many forms and can disguise itself in many ways. It’s name is fear.
Some people fear to be great, others fear that they won’t amount to anything. Some people are afraid to try anything new, most people if not all people have something that they fear that is holding them back. There’s different degrees of fear, and unbelievably some fear is good for you. Fear is an instinct that mother nature gave to us that warns us when something is life threatening. If there is a fight or flight situation, our level of fear can determine whether we stay and fight, or hit the road and get the hell out of there. I’m not talking about that kind of fear. The fear that I’m talking about, is the one that is very detrimental to your growth, to success, to your overall well-being.
I’ve always had this fear that I would become irrelevant so when I was younger, I tried very hard to please my parents and make good grades. I thought that my success was directly correlated to how my parents perceived me particularly my mother. I spent years trying to please other people instead of doing what I thought was best for myself. Now when you’re a child you listen to your parents and do the things that they ask you to do, because they’re taking care of you. Ask yourself this, who’s taking care of you right now? Who are you waking up for every day and living your life? If that answer isn’t yourself or your kids (if you have any), you are never going to be happy. You can never be happy when you live your life for someone else.
Now back on to the topic of fear, and how to deal with it and manage it. It’s not easy, I mean fear is such a raw human emotion that almost everyone has it in some way or form. Just because you have something doesn’t mean that you are able to manage it. It also doesn’t mean that it should control you or dictate the things that you do daily. It doesn’t mean that it should impede in any sort of way your road to success, but it most certainly will if you let it. If you let fear become your ultimate driving force or your major deciding factor when dealing with important situations. It will consume you, it will engulf you, it will take over your entire life. And once that fire starts burning it’s a hard one to put out. So how do you fight it? What’s the one thing that stronger than fear?
To Be Continued…